Today, something happened that stayed with me long after we left the restaurant. What was supposed to be a simple family meal turned into a moment that tested my patience, my emotions, and my beliefs about kindness. We were sitting at our table, enjoying the meal and each other’s company. Our little daughter, who is… Continue reading A Lesson in Kindness and Rising Above Cruelty
Tag: Emotional intelligence
Why People Who Aren’t Happy With Themselves Are Mean to Others
It’s not always easy to understand why people treat others badly. Sometimes it seems like certain people are just mean for no reason. But if you look closer, a pattern often shows up. Many of the people who are harsh, cruel, or quick to put others down are actually struggling with something inside themselves. They’re… Continue reading Why People Who Aren’t Happy With Themselves Are Mean to Others
How to Stay Professional at Work Even in Difficult Moments
Being professional at work means more than just dressing neatly and doing your job on time. It’s about how you carry yourself, how you handle tough conversations, and how you respond when situations get uncomfortable. Every workplace has moments that test your patience or make you feel disrespected. What truly sets a professional apart is… Continue reading How to Stay Professional at Work Even in Difficult Moments
Letting Go: The Strongest Revenge of All
There are moments in life when someone lets us down, and the hurt or disappointment doesn’t come crashing in—it arrives quietly and takes its place. Whether it’s betrayal, disrespect, or being brushed aside by someone we once trusted or respected—at work, online, among friends, acquaintances, or even family—the weight of that disappointment finds its way… Continue reading Letting Go: The Strongest Revenge of All
Correction Is Not Abuse, and Leadership Is Not About Fear
A post has been going around lately—written by a Filipino teacher—that struck a chord with many. It speaks about the frustration of not being able to discipline students anymore without being labeled abusive, of feeling powerless, of fearing backlash for simply doing what was once considered “normal.” The post paints a picture of a generation… Continue reading Correction Is Not Abuse, and Leadership Is Not About Fear
The Quiet Game of Office Politics
In every workplace, beyond tasks, deadlines, and job descriptions, there’s something quieter but just as powerful shaping daily life: office politics. Whether subtle or overt, internal politics influence how people behave, who advances, and who feels stuck. It can be hard to spot at first, but its effects are lasting. What Is Office Politics? Office… Continue reading The Quiet Game of Office Politics
The Quiet Ones Speak in Their Own Way
There’s a certain kind of person who never rushes a sentence. Their voice stays low, even when others raise theirs. They don’t interrupt, don’t compete for attention, don’t fill the silence just to avoid it. Calm and soft-spoken, they move through the world with a steady presence, the kind that often goes unnoticed until it’s… Continue reading The Quiet Ones Speak in Their Own Way
When Patience Meets a Short Fuse
Some people move through the world with a quick temper, like a spark waiting for something dry to land on. Reactions are sharp. Words come fast. The tension arrives before anyone else can prepare for it. Conversations become careful. Steps get lighter. Not because fear takes over, but because some personalities demand that kind of… Continue reading When Patience Meets a Short Fuse
Why “I Told You So” Isn’t Something I Want to Say to My Toddler
There are so many things we think about as parents—how to raise kind, confident, resilient kids, how to keep our cool on little sleep, how to be present even when the day feels stretched too thin. One small phrase I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is “I told you so.” It might seem harmless,… Continue reading Why “I Told You So” Isn’t Something I Want to Say to My Toddler
The Growing World of Stuffed Friends: Watching My Daughter Bond with Her Toys
There’s a kind of quiet magic in watching a child form attachments. Not just to people, but to the things around them—objects that somehow become more than just what they are. For my two-year-old daughter, this magic started with a small and soft gray stuffed dinosaur. We called it Baby Dino. To her, it wasn’t… Continue reading The Growing World of Stuffed Friends: Watching My Daughter Bond with Her Toys
Someone’s Loss Is Another’s Gain: Life’s Quiet Trade-offs
There’s a phrase we all hear now and then, tossed around in casual conversation or murmured when something unexpected happens: “Someone’s loss is another’s gain.” It sounds simple, even a little detached, but within it lies a quiet truth that governs many of life’s biggest and smallest moments. This idea plays out constantly—in love, in… Continue reading Someone’s Loss Is Another’s Gain: Life’s Quiet Trade-offs
The People Behind the Mask
There are people you meet in life—at work, at gatherings, sometimes even within your circle—who leave you wondering. You talk to them, you share space with them, maybe even eat lunch side by side. And yet, there’s something about them that feels… off. It’s not something they do outright. They smile when they should, they… Continue reading The People Behind the Mask
Talk To the Person, Not About the Person
It’s strange how often we talk around people instead of to them. Although we live in a world where staying connected is easier than ever—with smartphones in our pockets, social media at our fingertips, and instant messaging or video calls just a click away—we still often avoid having real, direct conversations. We talk about each… Continue reading Talk To the Person, Not About the Person
The Quickest Way to Show Who You Really Are Is by Opening Your Mouth
It’s funny how quickly people reveal themselves, often without even realizing it. They think they’re hiding behind fashion, filters, or carefully curated social media profiles. They stand straight, smile wide, maybe even rehearse a version of themselves they want the world to see. But the moment they speak, the truth comes out. Instantly. Words spill… Continue reading The Quickest Way to Show Who You Really Are Is by Opening Your Mouth
The Many Ways We Learn: Beyond the Classroom
Learning is not something that only happens in a classroom. While school is one of the most traditional places we associate with gaining knowledge, it’s just one part of a much bigger picture. Every experience we have, every place we go, every person we meet, and every challenge we face has the potential to teach… Continue reading The Many Ways We Learn: Beyond the Classroom
You’ll Be Surprised by People
Life has a way of teaching us lessons when we least expect it, and one of the most powerful lessons is this—you’ll be surprised by people. Sometimes in good ways, sometimes in disappointing ones, but always in ways that help you grow. People can turn out to be kinder than you thought, stronger than they… Continue reading You’ll Be Surprised by People
Not Everyone Is Your Friend
One of the toughest truths we all learn—sometimes too late—is that not everyone who smiles at you is your friend. This lesson doesn’t always arrive wrapped in drama or betrayal. Often, it comes quietly, through subtle moments of realization. It’s not about becoming cold or distant; it’s about becoming wise. Life has a way of… Continue reading Not Everyone Is Your Friend
There’s No Shame in Not Knowing
Not knowing something can feel uncomfortable. It might even feel embarrassing, especially when you’re surrounded by people who seem to have all the answers. But the truth is, there’s no shame in not knowing. In fact, admitting that you don’t know something is one of the most honest and brave things you can do. It’s… Continue reading There’s No Shame in Not Knowing
It’s Not All About You
Somewhere along the road of growing up, many of us get caught in a mindset that quietly whispers, “I’m the center of this story.” We don’t always say it out loud. Often, we don’t even realize we’re thinking it. But we move through the world as though other people’s actions are about us, as though… Continue reading It’s Not All About You
The Uncomfortable Truth About Self-Growth
There’s a version of self-growth that’s packaged nicely for social media. It’s filtered through warm lighting, framed by aesthetically pleasing journal pages, and hashtagged with words like #selfcare and #mindset. This version is neat, organized, and affirming. But the truth? Real self-growth isn’t always so pretty. In fact, most of the time, it’s messy, unflattering,… Continue reading The Uncomfortable Truth About Self-Growth
Why Most People Don’t Really Want Honesty
Everyone says they want honesty—until they get it. It sounds good in theory, like something we should all strive for. Be real. Be honest. Be transparent. But in practice? Honesty makes people uncomfortable. Because the truth, more often than not, isn’t what people want to hear. They want comfort dressed up as truth. They want… Continue reading Why Most People Don’t Really Want Honesty
Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: Protecting Your Peace with Grace
There comes a point in your personal growth where protecting your peace becomes non-negotiable. Not in a dramatic, over-the-top way, but in a calm, clear, grounded way. A lot of people talk about boundaries like they’re some harsh defense mechanism—but real boundaries, the healthy kind, are actually rooted in care. For yourself, and believe it… Continue reading Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: Protecting Your Peace with Grace
When You Outgrow People You Love
One of the hardest parts of growing as a person is realizing that not everyone will grow with you. And what makes it even harder is when the people you’re outgrowing are people you still love. The ones you’ve shared history with. The ones who once felt like home. Letting go of people isn’t always… Continue reading When You Outgrow People You Love
Riding the Waves: Learning to Regulate Emotions
Feelings are part of being human. They rise up, often without warning, and can change from one moment to the next. Sometimes they’re light and easy—joy, excitement, calm. Other times, they come with weight—anger, sadness, fear, shame. Emotions are natural and important, but they’re not always easy to handle. Some days they feel like waves… Continue reading Riding the Waves: Learning to Regulate Emotions
The People Who Talk Behind Our Backs and How to Handle Them
At some point in life, we all encounter people who talk behind our backs. It could be in the workplace, among friends, within the family, or even in casual social circles. The moment we realize that someone has been speaking about us when we’re not around, it stings. It makes us question their intentions, our… Continue reading The People Who Talk Behind Our Backs and How to Handle Them
Managing Emotions in Times of Stress and Uncertainty
Life is full of surprises, and not all of them are pleasant. Sometimes, we find ourselves in situations where everything feels uncertain. The future seems blurry, decisions become harder, and emotions take over. It could be a sudden change in work, a personal crisis, or an unexpected turn of events that shakes our sense of… Continue reading Managing Emotions in Times of Stress and Uncertainty
The Freedom of Not Caring About Gossip
There was a time when gossip would get under my skin. If I heard people talking about me, making assumptions, or spreading rumors, I would feel a deep sense of anger. I saw them as people with nothing better to do, filling their time by meddling in the lives of others. It frustrated me, and… Continue reading The Freedom of Not Caring About Gossip
The Four Rooms Model: Understanding Change and Growth
Change is a constant part of life, whether in personal growth, relationships, or the workplace. However, people experience change in different ways, and their reactions can determine success or failure. The Four Rooms Model, also known as the Four Rooms of Change, helps explain how individuals and organizations move through different emotional and mental states… Continue reading The Four Rooms Model: Understanding Change and Growth
The Role of Inner Teams in Understanding Thoughts, Feelings, and Motivations
When we talk about “inner teams,” we are often referring to the various aspects of ourselves that shape our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. These inner teams consist of different parts of our psyche, each representing a unique perspective, motivation, or emotional response. Understanding how these internal teams interact can help us gain a deeper understanding… Continue reading The Role of Inner Teams in Understanding Thoughts, Feelings, and Motivations
How to Deal with Immature People
Dealing with immature people can be a challenge, but it’s an important skill to learn, especially in today’s world where you encounter all kinds of individuals in your personal and professional life. Immaturity often manifests itself through behavior that is childish, emotionally reactive, and thoughtless. It may feel frustrating when you are in close proximity… Continue reading How to Deal with Immature People
